GRANDPARENTS DAY


  

It’s Grandparents’ Day on September 9th, and so what can psychology and neuroscience tell us about how a child’s brain develops in the presence of community elders?


By Dr Samantha J. Brooks Ph.D.





Grandparents in South Africa might hold the key to a brighter future! In South Africa, according to a report by Statistics South Africa, more people than ever are becoming grandparents, and grandmothers are becoming younger. Also, according to a study by Nkosithathi and Mtshali, in 2015, grandmothers in contemporary South Africa are the main source of parental support, with grandfathers providing a key role model for a child to mimic. The traditional role of grandparent as being an authoritative, punitive presence, out of touch with modern society, existing on the periphery of a child’s life, is predominantly out-dated.  Instead, grandparents play an active role as confidant, educator, entertainer and companion to children, especially when parents themselves are not available. For South African children, the role that grandparents occupy in their life, is especially important for those who live in poverty-stricken areas such as the Cape Flats, where children might not always be able to go to school for lack of money or safety fears.  According to the British Psychological Society, while much is written about how attachment styles between parents and children effect brain development and function, far less is written about the relationship between grandparents and grandchildren.  Given that grandparents are no longer on the periphery of a child’s life, but whose presence reflects a daily interaction - often in person – with their grandchildren, it is important to consider how older people within the family, whose memories might allow them to know more about the world and life than parents, influence a child’s brain development.

In South Africa, the role of grandparent in a child’s life, unlike most Westernised relationships, is often most apparent in response to a crisis, when the grandfather or grandmother are usually the best placed to intervene.  For example, the likelihood that a parents’ ability to look after a child is impaired, is much greater in South Africa than in other parts of the world, due to a higher incidence of poverty, substance abuse, parental jail sentences, or mental illness. This is especially true in Cape Town, and the influence of these parental issues on a child’s mental development is well studied.  For example, in the Western Cape, a high incidence of foetal alcohol syndrome (caused by mothers drinking during pregnancy) and related attention deficit disorders, adolescent methamphetamine and dagga use (often provided by gang leaders, substituting for absent fathers), and high levels of uncontrolled aggression, are all related - in part - to brain dysfunction.

However, it is not only external factors (substance misuse, maternal alcohol consumption, aggression) that alter a child’s brain development, but so too do major changes in society.  For example, it is well debated (see Don Pinnock’s book, Gang Town) that one of the contributors to the current rise in gangsterism in Cape Town, could be the dismantling of the influence of grandparents and other community elders, on the life of children growing up in District 6.  In the days of District 6, prior to the forced removals - to the Cape Flats where gangsterism is rife - sanctioned by the Group Areas Act in the 1950s-1960s, elders could keep a quiet eye on the children, in order to inform the parents of bad behaviour. Children knew that they were quietly being observed by their elders, and reports from people who used to live in District 6 say that this kept the general levels of crime low or petty (even though there were still gangsters around!). This covert web of influence by community elders to keep the youngsters in check, occurs to a much lesser extent in post-apartheid Cape Town, and may explain the surge in violent crime in recent years.  One must question whether, in the long-term, today’s army presence can provide an adequate substitute for the presence of grandparents and elders in the lives of these communities.

The presence of grandparents or similar elder figures in a child’s life, especially from an early age, becomes internalised and allows the child’s brain to develop stabilising cognitions and self-regulations that remain for life.  Our most famous South African elder statesman was of course calm, smiling Madiba himself, who always surrounded himself with adoring children in his latter days. The absence of our elder statesman in South Africa may explain some of the issues we face today!  The stabilising cognitions we develop as children often come from a wiser older person, who is likely less impulsive and driven by arousal, than younger family members, or who has more time to sit and chat to children than parents.  The influence of a stable home life on a child’s brain development was famously shown in Professor Robert Winston’s Millennials Study (‘Child of Our Time), where he followed the life-course of 25 babies born to families in the year 2000.  In this longitudinal study, it was suggested that children who developed within a stable household (read: non-arousing, routine-driven, quieter households surrounded by a loving family who expressed interest in the child), went on to have far less mental health issues in adulthood.  These stable children also had a better socio-economic outlook – they have got good university-entrance exam grades, good jobs and happy, healthy relationships of their own.  It suggested that the influence of a stable, loving upbringing, was far more important than socio-economic status (although child poverty can reduce the chance of growing up in a stable, loving household).

Similarly, in a much larger study in the UK – the Millennium Cohort Study of over 19,500 individuals born at the turn of the century - the latest data sweep, when the participants were age 14 years, showed that a child growing up in poverty had worse outcomes, such as higher levels of mental illness and poor well-being. However, to put this into South African terms – the presence of a stable, loving, non-arousing (e.g. low or no emotional or physical neglect or abuse) family network, could be more important than whether or not a child lives in poverty, if we consider that District 6 was a poor area but with many community elders.  Of course, it is easier to say than to implement a stable household in a township shack, with no electricity or running water.  But remember those who grew up in townships and thrived, such as Professor Pumla Gobodo-Madikizela, or Trevor Noah – from Langa in Cape Town, and Alexandra in Johannesburg, respectively.  According to his biography, Born a Crime, Trevor Noah’s grandmother CoCo was a strong, regular influence in his life in the townships, which no doubt helped him to become the international star he is today!  If families who live in townships can try very hard to foster the stabilising, loving influence of grandparents, despite the poverty, Cape Town might be able to foster greater numbers of future generations that can escape the poverty trap.  By maintaining a calm, stable household, no matter what is going on outside, the developing brain of a child, with the help of their important grandparents, will be able to develop the neural processes for resilience, which is vitally needed to overcome future poverty and crime for themselves and their families.

So let us celebrate the true power that grandparents have – either yours or sharing somebody else’s in your community – to reshape the beautiful brains and the beautiful futures that Cape Town grandchildren deserve.  Happy Grandparent’s Day Harfielders!


Dr Samantha Brooks is a UK neuroscientist in Harfield Village, specialising in the neural correlates of impulse control from eating disorders to addiction.  For more information you can contact Samantha at: www.drsamanthabrooks.com


Click to read all previous articles by Dr Samantha J. Brooks Ph.D.






MORE THAN A BOND

All the ways that originators help home buyers


More than 50% of home loan applications need to be submitted to at least two and sometimes three or four banks before being accepted but fortunately, home buyers no longer need to traipse around from bank to bank with files full of paperwork while crossing their fingers that they find one prepared to give them a bond at a reasonable interest rate.

“These days they just need to submit their application through a reputable originator,” says Rudi Botha, CEO of SA’s leading originator BetterBond. “We use an electronic multi-lender submission process which means that prospective borrowers only have to complete one application and assemble one set of supporting documents before their application is simultaneously submitted to a number of banks, including their own bank.

“However, bond origination is not just about convenience. BetterBond consultants also know what the different banks require and keep up with all the different home loan products they currently have on offer, which means they can direct and motivate your application to those lenders most likely to approve it, and so significantly increase your chances of obtaining a home loan.

“Indeed, more than 75% of the applications we submit are approved – which is a big improvement on the general market approval rate of 50% or less.”

Thirdly, he says, applying through an originator like BetterBond immediately signals to each bank that there are other lenders competing for your home loan business, and encourages them all to immediately make their best offer as regards the interest rate and terms that would be applicable to your bond.

“This not only speeds up the approval process but ensures that you are getting the very best interest rate available in your particular financial circumstances. And that is critical because even a small difference in the rate can cut many thousands of rands off the total cost of your home.

“At the moment, for example, the average variation between the best and worst interest rate offered on a bond application is around 0,5%, and on a 20-year bond of R1,5m, that translates into potential savings of more than R120 000 of interest over the lifetime of the bond, as well as a total of about R6000 a year off your monthly bond instalments.”

In addition, Botha says, originators can help home buyers even before they start looking at properties for sale. “To start with, we can go through your finances with you and suggest ways to repair any damage to your credit record that might prevent you from being approved for a home loan.

“We can also help you work out what size bond you can afford on your current salary and assist you to obtain a pre-qualification certificate for that amount. This will enable you to focus on homes that are within your budget, signal to sellers that you are a serious buyer and give you leverage in price negotiations that could save you even more on the total cost of your home.”


Anne-Marie Bamber is Norgarb Properties dedicated Home Loans Consultant. She has over 15 years’ experience in assisting clients with their Home Loan needs and has placed many happy families in their dream homes.

Contact her today for no cost stress-free home-buying.
Anne-Marie Bamber
Home Loans consultant
Tel: +27 (0)21 851 3568 | Fax: +27 (0)21 441 1494 | Cell: +27 (0)82 071 1665
E-mail: anne-marie.bamber@betterlife.co.za

ARO HAS SOME WONDERFUL NEW STOCK


Animal Rescue Organisation has some wonderful new stock online.

Please support our work by purchasing from our online shop. Orders can be posted, couriered or collected from our shops or Norgarb Properties.

We have stationary, purses, soaps, cat socks, creams, healthy hand-made dog treats and wonderful new shopping bags.

Please visit our site www.animalrescue.org.za or email tamsyn@ripsold.co.za for more information.



SEPTEMBER IN THE GARDEN

Our dams are almost all full! How different life felt at this time of year, looking back. Hopefully there will be even more rain before Spring kicks in over the coming month.

Temperatures are steadily increasing, leaves are budding on trees and veggies are already speeding up the their growth.

Spring is the perfect time to get planting. There's nothing better than home grown food!

September's plant list: 
Amaranth, Bush and climbing beans, Broadbeans, Beetroot, Butternut, Cauliflower, Carrot, Chard, Cape Gooseberry, Celery, Chives, Chilli, Cucumber, Eggplant, Kale, Kohlrabi, Leek, Leaf Mustard, Lettuce, Ginger, Globe artichokes, Jerusalem artichokes, Onion, Parsnip, Parsley, Peas, Potato, Pumpkin, Radish, Rhubarb, Sweetcorn, Sweet pepper, Sweet potato, Turnip, Tomato, Watercress, Watermelon, Zucchini

What's In Season This September?
It's also good to know what fruit and vegetables are in season to eat, not just to plant. More people may use this list than the plant list.

So here's the September list:

Vegetables: Asparagus, Artichokes, Beetroot, Broad beans, Broccoli, Japanese white radish-daikon, Cabbage, Carrots, Cauliflower, Celery, Cucumber, Leeks, Garlic, Lettuce, Mushrooms, New potato, Onion, Parsley, Parsnips, Peas, Potato, Pumpkin, Radishes, Rhubarb, Swiss chard, Squash, Spring onion, Sweet potatoes, Pak choi, Tomatoes, Turnips, Waterblommetjies.

Fruit: Mulberries, Avocados, Bananas, Cape gooseberries, Oranges, Lemons, Grapefruit, Naartjies, Limes, Kumquats, Guava, Paw paw, Pineapple, Kiwi.

Herbs: Mint, Sage, Thyme, Rosemary, Fennel, Bay leaves, Lavender, Parsley, Dandelion, Nasturtiums, Garlic chives, Winter savoury, Calendula, Nettle, Rocket, Perennial basil, Sorrel, Lemon grass stems.

Shopping hint: Try to buy fruit and veg that are in season and grown locally - everyone wins.

Happy Spring to all, and let's hope we've got a few rainy days left!

Patchwork Group
Gabriella Garnett
076 2199 849 | gabriella.garnett@gmail.com

TWO DELICIOUS BREAD RECIPES


BEER AND CHEESE BREAD

Ingredients:

  • 875mls self-raising flour (500gms)
  • 5mls salt
  • 340mls beer
  • 125mls grated cheese and/or herbs
  • Approx. 30mls water

Method:

Mix everything together except half the cheese for the top.  Put in loaf tin.  Bake at 180 degrees for an hour.

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ONION AND CHEESE BREAD

Ingredients: 
  • 500mls Buttermilk
  • 875mls flour (500gms)
  • 1 pkt white or brown onion soup powder
  • 125mls grated cheddar cheese
  • Approx 15mls milk (add to buttermilk carton and shake)
  • Pinch cayenne pepper

Method:

Mix all ingredients except save half the cheese for the top.  Place in loaf tin.  Place in oven at 180 degrees for an hour.

Lyn Staples, Norgarb Properties Estate Agent
Cell: +27 (0)82 846 0739 | Office: +27 (0)21 674 1120 | Fax: +27 (0)21 774 4927
Email: lyn@norgarbproperties.co.za
Focus Areas: Kenilworth & Claremont Village

BASIC SAFETY TIPS FOR WOMEN


The best self-defense is to make yourself aware. Use these basic safety tips to help save your own life.

Be Aware of Your Surroundings

Typically known as “situational awareness”, make it a habit to know what’s going on around you. When you walk into a room, look to your left and right to see who is lingering at the door, find your exits, look to see who is there. When you walk out of a door, immediately look to your left and right to see if anyone is lingering, look behind you often to make sure someone’s not following you. You don’t have to be paranoid you just need to be aware.

Bad dudes are just waiting for that woman who hasn’t a clue as to what is going on around her because she’s going to be the easiest mark.

Get Off Your Phone  


Is that phone call or text to your friend about the Woolworths sale REALLY as important as your safety? That call/text can wait until you are in your car safely (with the doors locked). Not only are you able to be aware of your surroundings by any human threat, but you can pay attention to the traffic around you and not get run over. If you’ve got the kids in tow as well, you aren’t giving them your undivided attention in a potentially dangerous situation.

Keep your phone handy to call for help, but don’t be so tied to it that you can’t be aware of what’s going on around you the moments you need to be the most aware.

Don’t Leave Your Purse Unattended

Before you glaze over at this, hear me out. Not only are you going to lose your cash and your credit cards if someone grabs your purse, but your personal safety is at risk because they now have your home address. This extends the danger time to well past the moment he or she walked by your shopping cart or restaurant chair and nicked your bag when you weren’t paying attention to the next time you’re out meeting friends, and they break in while you’re gone.

Lock the Door Behind You

Make it an absolute rule of thumb that when you get into your car, lock the door immediately (if nothing else, just use the remote you’ve already got in your hand to lock up, too). When you come in from outside, lock the door immediately.  When you go into a bathroom stall – lock first THEN find a place to put your bag. Too often bad guys don’t get you when you’re going into the building or car but will wait until you think you’re safe and relax your guard, and then open that door and you’re stuck.

Don’t let the perceived ‘safety’ of your car or house keep you from actually being safe.

Speak Up

Do not be afraid to speak to someone to ask them to not come closer if approaching you in a parking lot. Do not be afraid to yell for help if they don’t stop. Do not be afraid to speak loudly to someone so that you can get the attention of others nearby. Do not be afraid to let your wishes be known that you do not want to be harmed. Might you be embarrassed if it turns out that you misunderstood the situation? What’s a few minutes embarrassment when you read a situation incorrectly and ask for help compared to a situation where you stood and froze, too scared to say something because you didn’t want to embarrass yourself and were harmed.

Scream, yell, command – use your voice!

Park Safely

When parking, choose spots that are well-lit, amongst other cars, and as close to the main entrances of a building as you can (not so you can be lazy so that you spend less time in the car park as possible). Lock your car quickly, but keep your keys handy in case you have to get back in. Be aware of someone loitering near your car (do not approach), and always check in and around your car before entering. When loading your book, do so as quickly as you can and always keep aware on your surroundings of someone approaching.

Keep your keys handy and do not fumble in your purse for them.

Answer the Door

Typically, we’ve been told, “If you’re home alone and someone knocks, don’t answer – they’ll go away.” Recent events, though, are showing that more and more, burglars are doing home invasions assuming that if no one answers, it’s safe to go in. Locally, we’ve been told by our police department to answer with a call for who it is, and let them know you’re on the phone or won’t be answering the door or other ways to let the person know you aren’t going to be opening the door. Never actually answer the door even for a service person you are expecting until you’ve been able to confirm that they are actually who they say they are.

Do not invite a predator in.

Trust Your Instincts

Trust your gut. If you feel something weird about a situation, get out of it. If you have a sense of dread about walking into a dark area, don’t – find some light. If a person is giving you cause to be concerned, excuse yourself from the conversation or cross the street to get away from them.  I’m not talking about paranoia, I’m talking about that instinct that we tend to push aside – the hair raising on the back of your neck, goosebumps on your arms…all telling you to flee!

Don’t Make Yourself a Target

Wearing flashy jewellery (you have something valuable to steal), wearing restrictive clothing (unable to run or defend yourself), carrying more than you can manage, not paying attention to what’s going on around you, leaving valuables in plain sight, leaving your garage open, flashing money (best not to show everything in your wallet when trying to pay) are all ways to make yourself a target.

Hold yourself confidently, act wisely, don’t be a target.
JENNI COLEMAN
Manager - Harfield Village Community Improvement District (HVCID)
Cel: 081 412 6109 E-mail: admin@hvcid.co.za


CORNEAL ULCERS

Our eyesight is possibly one of the most precious senses we have, and that goes for your pet too. But one of the most common requests we have is for ‘over the counter’ medication for a ‘runny eye’.  Apart from regulations that restrict us from dispensing medicine without having properly examined a patient and diagnosed a problem, we wouldn’t want to run the risk of causing damage. If given the wrong treatment a simple eye infection could become a corneal ulcer. The occurrence of corneal ulcer is common, particularly in dogs and cats that are flat faced such as Pugs, French bulldogs, Persian cats etc.

What is a corneal ulcer?


To understand how a corneal ulcer occurs we need to take a quick look at the anatomy the eye.

As we can see in the diagram above the cornea is the transparent layer that forms the front of the eye.

The cornea itself has three distinct layers:

  • The outer epithelium
  • The stroma
  • The endothelium (inner most layer)

A corneal ulcer occurs when there is a break in the outer layer, the epithelium, of the cornea.

Symptoms you may see in your pet:

Runny eye
Squinting
Sensitivity to light
Yellowy green discharge
Cloudy eye

Causes 

Ulcers can occur for a variety of reasons such as:

Trauma
Foreign body
Rubbing or pawing at the eye
Eyelashes rubbing on the eye
Entropion =eyelid rolling in – common in certain breeds
Dry eyes - keratoconjunctivitis sicca
Corneal endothelial degeneration
Viral infections in cats – Feline Herpes Virus
Uveitis
Glaucoma
Eyelid tumours
Corneal endothelial degeneration

Corneal ulcers can be either complicated or uncomplicated depending on how well and how quickly they heal.

In the picture on the left the ulcer is severe and quite visible, but this is not always the case. 

The lesion can be deep or superficial depending on the initial cause of the problem and whether there is infection present.

Superficial ulcers may only be detected when stained. (See picture right)

Corneal ulcers are further classified as uncomplicated or complicated based on their healing.

Diagnosing a corneal ulcer.

With any eye problem a proper eye examination should be carried out by a Veterinarian in order to establish the cause and be given relevant treatment. As damage to the cornea is not always visible with the naked eye, the use of a stain (As seen in the picture above) to determine the presence or absence of an ulcer is critical to proper diagnosis.  The stain enables the Vet to see if an ulcer is present, how big it is and the extent of the ulceration.  If your vet is concerned, he/she may refer you to a Veterinary ophthalmologist, who will use specialised equipment (slit lamp biomicroscope) to magnify and inspect the eye during examination.


Specimens or swabs may be taken and sent to a laboratory for bacterial, fungal or viral culture and/or for cytological examination.

TYPES OF CORNEAL ULCER 

The treatment depends very much on the severity of an ulcer.

Superficial corneal ulcer – if only the outer layer of the cornea is damaged the ulcer is classified a being superficial.

Non-complicated - these are ulcers that are usually caused by trauma i.e.; injury /grass seed or some other temporary cause.

These ulcers are basically superficial wounds and heal quickly with the correct treatment, in a few days (3 to 5 days upwards to 14 days).

Deep corneal ulcer – these are severe ulcers , damage is caused not only to the outer epithelial layer but also to the middle layer (stroma). Infection is often present in these ulcers,  they usually start as superficial but progress to much deeper wounds if not treated.

A deep corneal ulcer can eventually lead to all three layers of the cornea being damaged - descemetocele – which can result in the complete rupture of the eye - this is consider a surgical emergency.

Complicated - these corneal ulcers are usually caused by an anatomic abnormality such as entropion (rolling in of the eyelid) and require surgical intervention of the cause in order to heal the ulcer.



EFFECTIVE TREATMENT

The healing of complicated and deep corneal ulcers can be protracted as infection is often involved.

Ulcers are painful. Your pet may experience spasms of the internal muscles of the eye causing the pupil to constrict, the ulcer also exposes nerve endings making the eye sensitive and irritated.


Most ulcers are treated with topical drops or ointments that, depending on the cause and type of ulcer, will contain antibiotics, antifungals or antivirals, and will help alleviate muscle spasms.  Oral medication may also be administered.

A soft contact lens may be used to cover the ulcer or an Elizabethan collar used to stop your pet rubbing the eye. A surgical procedure such as a conjunctival graft or flap may need to be performed. Again to protect the eye and aid healing.

In a healthy eye, complicated, uncomplicated, and simple ulcers will heal well with the correct treatment and management.

However, pets with deep or infected lesions, if not dealt with seriously and aggressively, can risk losing sight or an entire eye to perforation or rupture. Therefore, they pose the risk for loss of vision or loss of the eye altogether.

If your pets eye is runny or it is rubbing an eye or squinting, please don’t hesitate book an appointment with your vet to get it checked out!